Youth is the dominant population of any given country across the globe. They are the future of every nation yet the most neglected segment of the population is youth. The isolation, loneliness, and stress experienced by young people suggest that we must do something to address their problems.
The suicide rate can be reduced if an opportunity to guide youth is availed. Their personal, academic and professional development must be a priority for the government, NGOs and other interest groups. They need someone to consult in their times of distress.
They need to be guided about serious questions of life. Their rebellion against the set systems of thought is not due to the fact but the fiction of lack of experience, intellectual depth, maturity and most importantly the lack of ground reality.
They can be guided and they listen more than any other age group as per my experience. Due to psychological, biological and social changes and transitions they need the guidance of adults and the older generations. Failing in doing so, destined to addict them of pornography, social media and extremism the real rigidity of mind and thinking patterns.
After years of counseling youth about their problems and issues, I came upon these 6 strategies which may help you to guide your youth.
Really listen not just nodding only but sit and listen seriously and emphatically. Sometimes it is just the feeling of isolation that realize youth that no one is there for them. It is our responsibility to ensure that our young ones feel listened and cared for, most of the parents and teachers I know say that their youth don’t listen to them.
And the main reason behind this issue is that we don’t listen to them first. They have a lot of questions, queries, confusion, and frustrations they need you to listen to. The more you listen to them the more they will listen to you. Listening is a two-way process it’s like fifty percent game and I recommend that you start listening sixty percent or seventy percent.
You will be amazed that they will start listening to you more. Remember that just your one word can make or break your day. Choose words carefully but first listen patiently.
The second thing you can do to guide your young ones is to encourage them in whatever they are up to. Never criticize, we as humans hate those people by default who criticize us. We like those who encourage us in our community you can’t guide until and unless you are encouraging them in their domain of interest.
Let me give you an example you used to play any given game at your young age now your son, brother or neighbor is playing the same game. Ask them about their game, what they like or dislike in that game, offer your experience.
It builds courage and confidence and most importantly the trust. We call this trust as rapport in counseling and psychotherapy. The more rapport you build with your younger generation the more you can guide them about their biological, social and psychological problems.
If you think you can’t help them you can at least refer them to professional guidance and counseling services. The sooner the better is a great way to guide them before they fall into the wasted youth category.
Everyone needs the motivation to do anything great. In the early years’ young people, lose motivation very quickly. In order to get them on track, you need to motivate them on every occasion you may have. There is no secret to guidance if there is any than to me it is motivation.
They don’t need you to tell them what to do and what not to do. They just need you to tell them that whatever they want to do they can and they will. If they will try they will succeed no trying is the sure way of failure. It takes courage to motivate but it’s possible and if you want to guide them than you must have this skill in yourself.
The next part is to educate.
Listening helps you to encourage them, encouraging helps you to motivate now it is time to educate them. I have found this approach helpful with my clients and in personal relationships with my friends and family. If you start educating youth they will not listen to you.
Those of us who use this approach failed miserably not because they were not competent or sincere enough to their younger ones but they miss the proven psychological approach by first listening to them, encouraging, and motivating them then they will really listen and accept your guidance.
Education is a fun related domain of youth life and it should be dealt as such.
Entertainment is actually infotainment and in real essence the education with more fun and fewer restrictions, more activities less stress, more enjoyment less anxiety, more care and less fears and uncertainties.
It’s always hard to swallow education, entertainment makes it possible and actually makes progress faster and easier. While educational opportunities you teach them what you have found in your decisions and consequences.
What their decisions will lead them to. Never Judge or suggest anything neither conclusion nor recommend just give them the other side of the picture. They have to decide for themselves never ever make decisions for them. Encourage and motivate them to make decisions on their own.
If their decisions prove wrong they will learn to make better decisions if they make good decisions it will boost their confidence. In both cases, they will rely on their own decisions and they will learn that they are responsible for their decisions and their consequences.
6. Amaze them with your presence
Last but not the least amaze them with your presence, make them your allies rather than enemies. They have to trust you and then will listen to you. Keep their secrets, never ever break their confidentiality if you failed to make the confidentiality possible they will not trust you anymore.
The only way to guide your younger generation is to provide the opportunity to express their feelings and emotions. This age group is more emotional than rational rather than working with them logically plan to work in emotionally charged logic. Work on your emotional intelligence first than you will be able to guide them accordingly.
After applying these six steps I am sure that you will find your loved ones more listening to you and your concerns about their life. Let me know in the comments below what do you think about my six-step formula to guide your young ones. If you have any questions about your loved ones you can also ask in here.