6 step formula for guiding your youth about their issues
Youth is the dominant population of any given country across the globe. They are the future of every nation, yet the most neglected segment of the population is youth. The isolation, loneliness, and stress experienced by young people suggest that we must do something to address their problems.
The suicide rate can be reduced if an opportunity to guide youth is availed. Their personal, academic, and professional development must be a priority for the government, NGOs, and other interest groups. They need someone to consult in their times of distress.
They need to be guided about severe questions of life. Their rebellion against the set systems of thought is not due to the fact but the fiction of lack of experience, intellectual depth, maturity, and, most importantly, the lack of ground reality.
They can be guided, and they listen more than any other age group as per my experience. Due to psychological, biological, and social changes and transitions, they need the guidance of adults and the older generations. Failing in doing so, destined to addict them of pornography, social media, and extremism the real rigidity of mind and thinking patterns.
After years of counseling youth about their problems and issues, I came upon these six strategies, which may help you to guide your youth.
Listen, not just nodding only but sit and listen sincerely and emphatically. Sometimes it is just the feeling of isolation that realizes youth that no one is there for them. It is our responsibility to ensure that our young ones feel listened to and cared for, most of the parents and teachers. I know, say that their youth don’t listen to them.
And the main reason behind this issue is that we don’t listen to them first. They have a lot of questions, queries, confusion, and frustrations they need you to listen to. The more you listen to them, the more they will listen to you. Listening is a two-way process; it’s like fifty percent game, and I recommend that you start listening sixty percent or seventy percent.
You will be amazed that they will start listening to you more. Remember that just your one word can make or break your day. Choose words carefully but first listen patiently.
The second thing you can do to guide your young ones is to encourage them in whatever they are up to. Never criticize, we as humans hate those people by default who criticize us. We like those who inspire us in our community; you can’t guide until and unless you are encouraging them in their domain of interest.
Let me give you an example you used to play any given game at your young age now your son, brother, or neighbor is playing the same game. Ask them about their game, what they like or dislike in that game, offer your experience.
It builds courage and confidence and, most importantly, trust. We call this trust as rapport in counseling and psychotherapy. The more rapport you make with your younger generation, the more you can guide them about their biological, social, and psychological problems.
If you think you can’t help them, you can at least refer them to professional guidance and counseling services. The sooner, the better is a great way to guide them before they fall into the wasted youth category.
Everyone needs the motivation to do anything significant. In the early years, ’ young people lose motivation very quickly. To get them on track, you need to motivate them on every occasion you may have. There is no secret to guidance; if there is any, then to me, it is motivation.
They don’t need you to tell them what to do and what not to do. They need you to tell them that whatever they want to do, they can and they will. If they try they will succeed, no trying is the sure way of failure. It takes courage to motivate, but it’s possible, and if you want to guide them, than you must have this skill in yourself.
The next part is to educate.
Listening helps you to encourage them; encouraging helps you to motivate now it is time to teach them. I have found this approach helpful with my clients and in personal relationships with my friends and family. If you start educating youth, they will not listen to you.
Those of us who use this approach failed miserably not because they were not competent or sincere enough to their younger ones. Still, they miss the proven psychological method by first listening to them, encouraging, and motivating them; then, they will listen and accept your guidance.
Education is a fun related domain of youth life, and it should be dealt with as such.
Entertainment is the infotainment and, in real essence, the education with more fun and fewer restrictions, more activities less stress, more enjoyment, less anxiety, more care, and fewer fears and uncertainties.
It’s always hard to swallow education; entertainment makes it possible and makes progress faster and easier. While educational opportunities, you teach them what you have found in your decisions and consequences.
What their decisions will lead them to. Never Judge or suggest anything, neither conclusion nor recommend them the other side of the picture. They have to decide for themselves never to make decisions for them. Encourage and motivate them to make decisions on their own.
If their decisions prove wrong, they will learn to make better decisions if they make the right decisions, it will boost their confidence. In both cases, they will rely on their own choices, and they will learn that they are responsible for their decisions and their consequences.
6. Amaze them with your presence
Last but not least, amaze them with your presence, make them your allies rather than enemies. They have to trust you and then will listen to you. Keep their secrets, never break their confidentiality if you failed to make the secrecy possible they will not trust you anymore.
The only way to guide your younger generation is to provide the opportunity to express their feelings and emotions. This age group is more emotional than rational rather than working with them logically plan to work in emotionally charged logic. Work on your emotional intelligence first, then you will be able to guide them accordingly.
After applying these six steps, I am sure that you will find your loved ones more listening to you and your concerns about their life. Let me know in the comments below what do you think about my six-step formula to guide your young ones. If you have any questions about your loved ones, you can also ask in here.