Negative beliefs and their consequences
According to Albert Ellis, our false beliefs are the driving agents of our actions and our actions, in turn, our thinking negatively, and this vicious cycle leads us to abnormality. He categorized these thinking patterns into the following points.
One should be competent, adequate, and achieving all the time
A source of modern world stress, depression, and anxiety is that we should be relevant, sufficient, and achieving; this is life and not a race. It is good to be competent, adequate, and fulfilling, but what if we do not?
Will life will finish, or will we not survive the pain of incompetence, inadequate, or underachieving. The truth is that it may be the case, but if we work on ourselves, we can be competent, adequate, and achieving most of the time, not all of the time. It is a fact, not fiction.
External factors cause unhappiness, and people have no control over it
The second pattern is more destructive when we think that dissatisfaction is external generated. Simultaneously, the research and studies mentioned it again and again that happiness is an inside job.
The same is the case with unhappiness. It is also an inside game. Things we can control are our locus of control.
Whether it is happiness or unhappiness, both are states of mind and can be changed at any time and in any situation. If we condition ourselves again and again that external factors cause unhappiness, we chose helplessness, which further draws us to sadness and depression.
It is awful and catastrophic when things are not the way we want
We love everything which shows up our way. However, when we fixate our minds and think about this fact, it is an awful and sad fact that things are not the way we want.
This ” my way or the high way” approach is deemed failing in the long run. Instead, you should think about this that if things are going the way you want, it’s okay, but if not, then there is no need for worry.
You must trust the process; the destination will make you feel better and more successful.
One should depend on others
It is no secret that we are interdependent species, but depending on others and not taking our decisions is another factor tricking us to mental health issues.
Past is the most important
No, doubt history is necessary but not the most important; the most critical time is just right now, this moment and present.
Dwelling on the past and regarding this as an essential thing in your life is a stepping stone towards depression and suffering from your thinking.
There is a perfect solution
There no such thing in the world as an ideal solution. There are as many right solutions as reasonable minds are involved. So, if this thinking pattern persists, then you are heading towards mental health problems.
One should be praised always
Is there anyone who doesn’t like to be appreciated? Exceedingly wishing for admiration and praise still will reside; you are selfish and destructive behaviors that will make your life harder and more challenging to get approval.
Failure once means failure in all
Failure makes us think over our decision again and adjust our strategy for success. However, overthinking about loss and thinking that this failure is all and now each and everything is finished, and you are done. Make you pray for mental health.
As the name indicates, it is giving importance to trivial things and experiences.
Magnifications serve best when you want to resolve any conflict internal or external issues with oneself and others. Over magnifying your problems and dwelling on them make you vulnerable to abnormality.
The generalization of one experience to all populations is another root cause of the abnormality.