According to Albert Ellis, our false beliefs are the driving agents of our actions and our actions, in turn, our thinking negatively and this vicious cycle leads us to abnormality. He categorized these thinking patterns into the following points.
One should be competent, adequate and achieving all the time
This is a source of modern world stress, depression and anxiety. That we think that we should be competent, adequate and achieving. This is life and not a race. It is good to be competent, adequate and achieving but what if we do not?
Is life will finish or we will not survive the pain of incompetence, inadequate or underachieving. The truth is that it may be the case but if we work on ourselves we can be competent, adequate and achieving most of the time. Not all of the time. It is a fact, not fiction.
Unhappiness is externally caused and people have no control over it
The second pattern is more destructive when we think that unhappiness is external caused. While the researches and studies mentioned it again and again that happiness is an inside job.
The same is the case with unhappiness. It is also an inside game. Things we can control are our locus of control.
whether it is happiness or unhappiness both are the states of mind and can be changed at any time and in any situation. If we condition ourselves again and again that it is externally caused we chose helplessness which further draws us to sadness and depression.
It is awful and catastrophic when things are not the way we want
We love everything which shows up our way. However, when we fixate our minds and thinking about this fact that it is an awful and sad fact that things are not the way we want.
This ” my way or the high way” approach is deemed to be failing in the long run. Instead, you should think about this that if things are going the way as you want it’s good but if not then there is no need for worry.
You must trust the process, the destination will make you feel better and more successful.
One should depend on others
It is no secret that we are interdependent species but totally depending on others and not taking our decisions is another factor tricking us to mental health issues.
Past is the most important
No, doubt the past is important but not the most important, the most important time is just right now, this moment and present.
Dwelling on past and regarding this as the most important thing in your life is a stepping stone towards depression and suffering from your thinking.
There is a perfect solution
There no such thing in the world as a perfect solution. There are as many good solutions as good minds are involved. So, if this thinking pattern persists then you are heading towards mental health problems.
One should be always praised
Is there anyone who doesn’t like to be praised. Exceedingly wishing for admiration and praise always is going to reside you in narcissistic and destructive behaviors that will make your life harder and more difficult to get praise.
Failure once means failure in all
Failure makes us think over our decision again and adjust our strategy for success. However over thinking about failure and thinking that this failure is all and now each and everything is finished and you are done. Make you pray for mental health.
As the name indicates it is giving importance to trivial things and experiences.
Magnifications serve best when you want to resolve any conflict internal or external issues with self and with others. Over magnifying, your issues and dwelling on them make you vulnerable to abnormality.
The generalization of one experience to all populations is another root cause of the abnormality.