Friendship’s psychology is based on mutual trust, respect, and unconditional love; friends with benefits are beyond this post’s scope. Psychology is the study of mental processes, behavior, and their mutual relationship.

Friendships are the roots, as well as the fruits of this short life. Life is a time set given to everyone who is breathing right now; you are reading this post, so you are alive. I am writing right now, so I am alive too.

Well, you can ask me why I have chosen this topic for today’s post. Let me tell you that the reason behind this is that I am happy because I enjoyed the company of my friends today. I was busy all day with my friends.

They were happy and enjoying their lives, and I was too, but when we met up with each other when forgetting that what we are now, we were just friends.

We shared our dreams, passions, inspirations, motivations, fears, doubts, worries, and uncertainties without fear of judgment. We were discussing our private lives, our crushes, Gfs, Bfs, and affairs.

Our future planning, decisions, we eat like crazy, and we acted bizarrely we hugged we touched, and we shared our memories once again. In those eight or nine hours, it seemed like we are in Paradise.

This joy and happiness inspired me to write something about the psychology of Friendship.

As a professional counselor and trained as a social psychologist, I have found these basic Friendship principles, and now I want to share it with you.

Respect

Respect is the first and most crucial aspect of Friendship. I can’t even imagine the Friendship without it. Respecting others comes from self-respect.

Those of you who don’t respect themselves will not respect others, and without this, no friendship can ever flourish. Physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual attractions fade away once the infatuation period is passed.

Respecting their personal and professional boundaries, information, confidentiality, property and possession, personal and professional commitments, time and space, dignity, and integrity are some of the most important aspects of respect.

If you want to ask someone’s Friendship first, give them respect. Once the realization that you respect them as a person and individual, they start trusting you. This is the second most important and fundamental principle of Friendship; let’s see it in detail.

Trust

The building blocks of Friendship, as well as any relationship, is this trust. Without it, no personal or professional friendship can ever flourish. No individual or professional commitment can be approved.

All business and personal activities will cease if the trust is gone. The wise psychologists, philosophers, and theologians have rightly said that “when trust is lost, everything is lost.” Trust can’t be developed without a nonjudgmental attitude.

Nonjudgmental

A non-judgmental attitude is the vital role of Friendship. Friends don’t judge you as individuals; they don’t discriminate, neither prejudice nor criticize. They have no issues with your color, race, ethnicity, language, region, religion, or social-economic status.

Your weaknesses or disabilities are never discussed; you are respected for who you are as a person rather than your status quo. Your strengths are encouraged and appreciated, and your friends feel proud of you and your achievements and accomplishments.

Real friends feel happy when you are happy and sad when you are sad. In psychology, we say that friends are the reflection of your true self.

They are your mirrors; if you are looking for a true reflection of your life, ask your friends to tell you the actual and the real case that will give you. Let’s see what joy is.

Joy

It is the gift of Friendship, Respect, Trust, and a nonjudgmental attitude. Satisfaction is one of the most beautiful feelings in humans, as well as other organisms. All addictions are in search of Ecstasy, and ecstasy is searching for joy.

The real expression of existence is the feeling of joy. When you get that thing in a relationship, stay longer and closer because this is a true friendship. When respect, trust, and nonjudgmental attitude met joy, this becomes a new principle: happiness.

Happiness

It is the root of human existence, success, and motivation. When you are happy, you can’t hide your true self because you are not attached to your actions’ outcome. You are free to choose fear or love.

You can select any options for yourself and others. God is with you than when you are happy.

Importance of Friendship

The religious narratives guide us about the importance of friends and enemies. The latest version of revelations in the form of the holy Quran significantly lightens this topic.

Statistically, out of more than six thousand verses, more than 1500 verses are about enemies and friends, which shows how important it is to God and his messengers, messages and how important it is for our own lives and works.

Quality

Sometimes I startle my friends by saying that the quantity of Friendship is not important quality matters more. A common misconception about Friendship is that the more you have friends, the more you are satisfied with your life, and it is not valid in light of psychology and clinical experience.

Friendships are expected to be fewer than the other way around because you can’t give your humanly possible attention span to others simultaneously.

If you have fewer friends, it means that you are the luckiest person who can give full attention to friends and enemies. I leave this discussion for the next post in which I will talk about the psychology of enemies.

Communication

Friendship is the only relationship, in my opinion, which can survive even without contact. However, at the beginning of friendships, communication plays a vital role in developing respect, trust, joy, and happiness.

Without it, no friendship can ever start. Proper communication skills will help you to boost your confidence and will help you to win quality friendships.

Loneliness

I think the most crucial motivator for starting a friendship is loneliness.

As social animals, we haven’t mastered our minds, emotions, feelings, and attitudes about life, self, and others. It plays a vital role in our Friendship.

This was all about the psychology of Friendship first part for now, what do you think? Let me know in the comments section below.

Note:

This post will be updated regularly, probably monthly; in the next parts of this series, we will discuss further aspects of friendships’ psychology.

The following parts will include but are not limited to social support, isolation, rejection, anxiety, fears, doubt, coping, healing, religiosity, life satisfaction, health, mental health, and spirituality.

Stay connected and blessed.

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