They are healthy thinking patterns that lead us to act in a certain way. Pushing us to change or adapt makes us fight or flight the situation. Survival and instinctual decisions are unconscious domains, and they are out of our topic. It is concerned with conscious and insightful decisions we take to choose our life direction, career, personal and professional risks, and all other types of decisions we take to take ourselves from zero to one.
Psychology of decisions
Psychology is a field of study concerned with our brain’s internal software, saying how our brain works and what can be achieved if the mind was reprogrammed. From brainwashing to mass enslavement, from religion to political polarities, all are just a few psychological faces from education to discrimination. The underlying mechanisms of individual and societal thinking patterns and human civilization programming are only achieved by employing psychology’s basic principles.
Consequences of decisions
Decisions are the building blocks of our life. Right this moment, I have decided to write, that’s why I am writing, and you have agreed to read; that is why you are here to read. Without a decision neither, I will write, nor will you read. Whatever we have done and achieved were just the consequences of our decisions, and those we didn’t decide to do were also our decision.
We all have to see our life just right now; whatever we have become is because of our decisions, and if we have decided otherwise, our life would not be the same. For example, our friends decided to have a party, and we decided to stay in the house and study for upcoming exams. After examination, what will be the result to show us who will be happy and resentful?
I remember one story, ten friends complaining about the bad economy, government, and world because they were not fair to them. One of them decided that he will be a millionaire ten years later, and his friends laughed at him. He stood by his decision, and after ten years, they meet at the same place; nine friends were still complaining about anything while he was a millionaire. This is what we call the consequences of decisions. These are the consequences we all made in our lives.
Importance of decisions
Psychologists believe that we decide every moment, and these decisions take us to their results. They are essential in the sense that our all life depends on them. Whether we are in business, education, marketing, blogging, or whatever we are busy in, we decide upon our previous decisions. If we make decisions that show the results we desire, we make a similar decision; if it went wrong, we decide on another. This is how we are living our lives. We are living with people or leaving them to live happily. These all are decisions. To accelerate our decision-making process, we can do the following things: happy, prosperous, and successful. Here they are:
The number one barrier to decision-making is that we avoid society, our social circle, and social connection. We isolate ourselves from our loved ones, friends, and family. Our decisions have a lot to do with others too. It is easy to decide to commit suicide, but if you consult others around us, they will hope to live. Isolation is killing us as individuals. Social media was designed to make connections, not isolation.
The real power of touch and human face-to-face interaction is the number one motivator to decide better and take feedback to enhancement. This century is a century of loneliness; the real connection makes us human. Only beasts can live alone. We are social animals; loneliness makes us inhuman and others the neglected part of our society. To live and the decision to live with success is to avoid loneliness at any cost necessary.
Avoid conflicts leading nowhere
Another reason for decision delay is our conflicts with ourselves, others, and generally with the world around us, which leads us nowhere. I think Winston Churchill was right to say that if we throw stones at every dog barking at us, we will never reach our destination. Some conflicts can be avoided by only being silent and listening. The more we avoid conflicts leading us nowhere, the more we will be able to decide.
Accept that you can decide whatever you want to
The myth around us is being circulated in societies like ours is that others will decide for us. Until and unless we are diagnosed with a dependent personality disorder, which can be treated too, decisions are your birthright. Human rights are dependent on this same notation that we have a right to choose whatever we want to decide for ourselves.
We are free to decide and are open to seeing the consequences of our decisions. We have to decide to accept the fact that we can choose whatever we want to select. We can decide who will rule us, which system will be implemented, and the rule of law of our land.
Decisions come quickly; we accept this.
It is a fact, not a fiction, that one has to fight for his rights with those who have been oppressed. Standing up for one’s rights, excepting the consequences of the decision, and for peace and justice, one has to fight. With different types of weapons, not always with guns, it is not limited to this if necessary.
Sometimes speaking out aloud, pen, and political and professional strikes can do a lot more than merely guns will ever do. However, it is necessary to choose his battles. Fighting for everything and with everyone is not a wise strategy of war. The art of war revolves around immediate threats and potential threats. Immediate threats need our attention first, and most times in our lives, we must focus on these.
Potential threats should be taken into account, but they can be delayed with strategy and tactics. Individually as a person and collectively as a state, we can understand our standing in our ground realities if we exercise the following steps necessary to succeed and be victorious in any field.
Here they are:
Accept whatever life gives to you
It seems a cliché, but most of us don’t accept whatever life gives to us. Life is a grand design of the universe; it never gives anyone anything worthless or useless. It gives only those experiences we need to succeed in our life.
I am not joking; yes, you must accept criticism. Sincere criticism is a mirror of your blind spots. No matter how smart you are and how aware you are of yourself, if you realize that you can’t see your blind spots with your eyes, you can only see them through others’ eyes. So, appreciate their criticism and work on your improvements.
Accept that you have to fight alone
It is better to be surrounded by others, protected, and feel safe in others’ presence. The strongest and the bravest always choose to fight alone; Only the weak and the vicious fight collectively for their gains. Accept that you have to fight alone, no matter how many people around you support you.
Accomplish peace with yourself
You can’t fight two battles at the same time with different enemies and on battlefields. First, you have to make peace with yourself not to be mentally divided when you step into the battlefield.
In history, many victories were turned around in defeat due to distractions. The more you have distractions, the more you are prone to defeat. Never distract yourself from your only goal to defeat and become victorious.
Bad decisions are valuable lessons
Most of us are reluctant to decide because we have experienced in our past, that the decisions we make were terrible for us. So, we search for someone wiser and more courageous than us to decide what to do and what not to do. It is important to remember that bad decisions are valuable lessons; we will never decide what we have agreed on in the past due to our experience. But without deciding for ourselves, we will never be able to take the experience necessary for living. Without evil, we can’t make the right decisions. So, they are part of our decision-making process.
Be ready for paying bills
No, no, no, don’t worry, I am not saying about your utility bills. I am talking about your psychological bills, anger, frustration, anxiety, fears, and doubts. They are more important bills that we have to pay with our patients, trusting the process, and not complicating the life we are leading. The more anxious, fearful, frustrated, and doubtful you are, the more you will make bad decisions.
The more bad decisions you make, the more you take to experience; the more experienced you are, the more you make the right decisions. This is the law of nature; the more you make the right decisions, the less anxious, fearful, frustrated, and in doubt, you will be. But the trick is you have to make decisions; otherwise, it is not going to happen.
Be ready for the worst outcomes
Once students asked the monk, how could they silence their minds of a future worst-case scenario? He answered, be ready for the worst outcome. Accept what will be the worst outcome. There will be no worries; you have to decide. The same case is with us too. We delay our decisions due to fear of its worst outcome. It may be, and it maybe not. So, why fear deciding?
Befriend those who resonate with your passion
Now, this is a golden rule of human relationships. If we befriend coal always, our face will be like coal; if we befriend Rose, we will smell incredible. We can’t make music with those who don’t resonate with our lyrics. We can’t make poetry with those who don’t speak our language of love. The same case is with that of life; we can decide freely with those who support us in our causes and who resonate with us. To decide effectively, we must befriend those who resonate with our passion.
Cope with stress, anxiety, and depression
To fight psychological demons, namely; stress, anxiety, and depression, with must learn to cope with these to decide freely. Remember that stress is always about present circumstances; anxiety is still about the future, and depression is always about past experiences. Mild to moderate is ok because we are alive, so some sort of these demons can’t break us. However, chronic and prolonged stress, anxiety, and depression can lead to a nervous breakdown, panic attacks, and suicide. The better we cope with these, the better our chance is to decide whatever we want to choose.
Don’t force friendships
Yeah, you read it right, the only more significant and more prolonged list of friendships must be on a Facebook friends list. Not in real life. Research doesn’t show any merit in a longer list of friends. It does show the benefits of quality friendships, and the fewer friends you have, the more significant opportunity to share with them, trust them and seek or offer your and their help. It helps you decide; not forcing your friendships makes you pure, innocent, brave, or courageous. This is what I have experienced throughout my life and the lives of those who have shared with me their lives.
When you drive to decide, act on your decision, never delay, and don’t procrastinate because procrastination is the number one killer of hopes and dreams. When we procrastinate, this decision is not essential, and our minds decide not to do what we were choosing.
Don’t seek perfection
Perfection doesn’t exist; only hard work, dedication, and improvements exist. Deciding when there will be a perfect time, situation, and circumstance is just a wastage of time and resources. Decide to act even when you think that you are not ready. You will be ready if you start deciding to be prepared. The point here is to determine and not wait for the time to be perfect.
Decide to Live
Life of contribution is the only life I regard as life; otherwise, all animals are alive but what makes us human is our decision to live as a human. All decisions guided by life and being aliveness are our most excellent motivators to push us to our benefit; all others are just death-centric approaches that lead us only to the valley of death.
Every decision has a consequence
One innocent excuse is always from our youth if we decide in a certain way, whether we can avoid its consequences. The simple answer is no; if we decided to jump off the roof, we would hit the ground no matter our intentions. If we survived, we would never jump again; if not, there is no need for more. The point here is that the universe will never abandon its laws for us. Only we can change to adapt to survive and thrive in any situation. Every decision has its consequences, and no one can avoid it at any cost.
When deciding on anything significant, never expect anything, neither good nor bad. It will help us to make significant decisions in confusion and doubts. But, in the long run, it will show us that those decisions made ours and others’ lives easier and more comfortable.
Despite all the odds, imagine Henry ford finally building the engine-generated machine and driving it at night at around 3 am in the rain. But if this decision would not take, we could never drive our BMW, Lamborghini, and Land Cruiser. When deciding on anything worthwhile, we should not expect anything.
Solitude is a gift of a happy mind and soul. It means that the heart is at its place, and the reason is serving. Solitude is the opposite of loneliness; it is the willing separation of individuals from distractions to reflect and relax in their existence. All the great minds have chosen solitude while deciding any great decision. Enjoying solitude enhances your skills in decision-making.
Fear is your decision
The psychology of fears says that most of our worries never happen to be real. We decide to choose fear or love. If we are interested in our development, we must choose love and live freely, or the other way is more dangerous and ugly than death. The fearless life is the only life form that humans can decide to live.
Good decisions feed confidence
Confidence is knowledge of our abilities and that we can do whatever we want to do. This means that if we make better decisions, we will be confident in our abilities, and others will be in our capabilities because we make better decisions.
Happiness is our decision
The courage to lead a happy life lies in the courage to act. The psychology of happiness says that happiness is a mindset, and we are as excited as we wish to be satisfied. But the decision is ours. The joy and sorrow are in our own hands.
I am a great fan of mistakes
According to Biblical texts, don’t fear mistakes; if Adam didn’t mistake, we wouldn’t be here. So, human beings will make mistakes. But mistakes are not decisions; they are the precursor of decisions. I had a t-shirt in my university times, and it was my favorite one; it had a slogan: learn from your mistakes and do them again correctly. I think this is a decision to make the same mistake twice.
It is essential to leave negativity alone
Negativity is only for those people who don’t decide for themselves. So, it is crucial to leave negativity alone to those who don’t have anything to decide. It is not for you.
Judge your decisions
You are the best judge of your decisions.
Stand up in front of a mirror and ask yourself, I suppose that your eyes will not deceive you and will tell you the truth you are searching for.
Kill your inner opposition
The African proverb that says an enemy inside the enemy outside can harm is so real.
The internal opposition is the killer of your dreams must be killed if you want to master warriors’ decision-making skills.
Life is all about decisions
All life, we make decisions for our better survival and growth. If we minus decisions from our lives, it will be merely the coincident left, which leads our lives and us to dread and fear, which further weakens our decision-making.
Learn by doing
The best advice I have ever taken was this, learn by doing. Sometimes we avoid deciding anything due to our ignorance because we don’t know whether we will do something or not. When this mindset is adopted, we no longer delay our decisions.
Master your laziness
Laziness is just equaled to that; this thing is not a priority. When we make anything, our priority our laziness no more stops us from doing that very thing.
No one can decide for you and your life
Remember my friend! No one can decide for you and your life; only you can do this, and you should and must do that.
This is your life, not theirs.
If you make the right decisions, you will become confident in your ability to decide, and if you choose wrongly, you will take experience. Both are to your benefit, stand up for your life and decide the course of your life.
Only you can decide
Pick your present
Gifts are everywhere you have to decide which present suits you and what you are searching for.
Quick and quiet
Decide quickly; sometimes, it takes only half of a moment to decide. Decide quietly and let the results make noise for you.
Resist the instant gratification
Pleasure-seeking behaviors are unconscious processes, but our ego is always there to help us to resist instant gratification. It allows us to make better and long-term choices, which makes us proud even after years.
Seek social support
We are not alone; there are governmental institutes, INGOs, NGOs, and other forums that can support us whenever we need it. The more we are socially supported, the more we can decide for our betterment.
Success and failure are our decisions
In life, success and failure are meaningless if we fail to decide. If we decide that success is a journey, not a destination, our life will be more meaningful. If we refuse to accept failure at face value, there is no failure at all. It is just another lesson, nothing else.
The time is now
Making a decision is just this moment and now, no other moment, no additional time, no other place, and no other person.
Universal guiding system
This system governs our lives; it guides us to decide on our benefit and take advantage of the laws of nature.
Vanishing bad vibes of habits
The good can only thrive when we limit the terrible vibes of habits. They strengthen our thought processes, and our thoughts make us act.
When we feed our minds a healthy diet in the form of positive thoughts, it pushes us to decide better.
Work with life satisfaction
Our decision-making is partially dependent on our satisfaction with life. Positive psychology says that the more we are satisfied with our life, the better decision-maker we will be. Happiness feeds soul and heart; when we are happy, we make no efforts to lose our insight; we act upon our betterment, which makes us more satisfied with our lives.
Being autonomous is an experience worth experiencing. Kings and queens were only interested in command. There were neither interested in gold or treasures nor palaces and land but only in command. Those who have experienced this type of autonomy in their lives never forget the thrilling experience of all dictators, monarchs, and kings of kingdoms clinging to their command for independence. Only those individuals can experience it who decide to dictate their lives.
You can handle it
Yes, you can handle whatever comes in your way if you have the drive to succeed in your life and the inner strength to stand against adversity and rapid change.
Zero to One
Those individuals who wish to go from zero to one are the ones who decide and make their decisions at any time. Who can change their plan at any time, which can turn anything around if they decide to do so? This was all about the psychology of decisions. Are you ready for the consequences of your actions?