Psychology of jealousy in relationships
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Psychology of jealousy in relationships

Jealousy is the characteristic of a person having low self-esteem, self-worth and inability to keep or achieve common desirable possessions; place, person or thing.

There is nothing more painful in love and relationship as jealousy. It makes hearts and souls bitter, resentful and regretting over time, and resources. Let us have a deep look in this phenomenon and sort out psyche behind this jealousy. Here we go;

Jealousy in relationships

It pops up when the advantageous partner in any aspect takes advantage over another due to natural or acquired qualities and skills and the less advantaged one is passively seeing and grudge, hate, anger, resentment, and boredom mixed emotions when blown like Strom jealousy comes in the scene and destroy anything which is left.

It is the worst nightmare of a lover, spouse, partner, colleague, and neighbor.

A relationship is the result of mutual respect and understanding but, when jealousy comes in the picture it shatters the core concept of the relationship which makes a stage for tragedies only.

Psychology of jealousy lies in the mind and its software is your thinking patterns. Jealousy is not our default system programing but it is installed through social and personal biases, self-concept, self, and world view.

Those of us who think that they are not able to achieve anything like their partner the only way to feel satisfied is to steal that very thing from them so they can feel the same grief and sorrow which they are feeling now.

It can be social status, respect, love, appreciation, passion, professional success, happiness or prestige which can make you pray for it and your partner, friends, and family, spouse or neighbors can give you a tuff time to enjoy your life.

Now, one can ask what are the causes of this jealousy which can be dealt if we ourselves are jealous of someone and work on that;

Some of the most important causes of jealousy are:

Low self-esteem

Low self-esteem is the number one cause of it, thinking yourself inferior or not worthy of achieving what others have.

What to do?

Boost your self-esteem through proper affirmations and work on identifying your worth and self-respect this process will not allow you to focus on others but only on yourself for better results.


Fears are false evidence appearing real, it is the illusion we have created in our minds and we can destroy it too.

Fear of rejection, unknown, poverty, detachment and separation, loneliness, and loss are the second most important cause of jealousy.

What to do?

It’s simple:

List down your all fears.

Realize that 80% of fears just don’t happen

If 20% fears show up in front of you you can beat them every time.

When you face them they lose power over you.


Rejections in life blur vision of your future you can’t see the clearer view of your future. When your access is denied to something you think you were capable of doing and someone else achieves it you feel jealousy and is another contributing factor of it.

What to do?

Simply, reflect back on your emotions and try to listen to your inner voices of strength.

Rejection is a redirection, so don’t take it personally.

This is not the end of life, go and get your worth, you are part of it and you can achieve it too, your greatness and true worth.

Some other contributing factors are; your past experiences, overconfidence, mistrust of process of transformation, personality traits and last but not the least is comparison.

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Senior writer, author, and researcher at AromaNish, specializing in Psychology with an impact on information technology. As a writer, he writes about business, literature, human psychology, and technology, in blogs and websites for clients and businesses. Enjoys reading, writing and traveling when he is not here with us...

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